How To Stop Using The R-Word

I've written about why I've chosen to stop using the R-word, but I realized I didn't offer any tips to help others stop. So here are mine and I hope you join me in solidarity.

1) Understand that it hurts people.

Understand that even if you think it's funny or no big deal, it can hurt a lot of people - even people you don't see as having disabilities. Not only are some disabilities "invisible" or less obvious, but you never know if you're talking to a relative or friend of someone who may take your words to heart.

2) Catch yourself saying it

Sometimes our habits are so ingrained, we don't even realize how often certain words come out of our mouth. Engage your friends and family to help keep you on track and get them to point out every time you say it.

3) Come up with other words to use in its place

Do you use it when something is "stupid" or "ridiculous"? Use those words instead, in moderation. Improve your vocabulary so you have more words to say.


4) Start to become aware

You can use this exercise with other derogatory or dismissive words that may be in common use.  Start to build an awareness of how you may be contributing to the oppression of other people with your words. Analyse your vocabulary and take out useless and hurtful words in general. Be a better person :)

The R Word

I've used the word "retard" A LOT in my life, I won't lie. I didn't use it for people, but every *thing* that didn't work was "retarded." So it pretty much stood in for "broken" or "ridiculous." Why not say those actual words then?

Again, I won't lie, I still slip up now and then, but I'm working on it every day. I am working to eliminate a bad habit.

Why?

• Because it offends people. 
• Because medically, there have been times in my own son's development where he was delayed or "retarded" and I want it to stay a medical term and not an insult any more than having a broken leg or cancer is an insult.
• Because it's possible other people will tease my son using that word and I don't want him to hear that word coming out of his own mother's mouth. I am supposed to be a source of comfort, not of shame. 
• Because there are so many other words or ways I can express myself. 
• Because I am tired of hearing it thrown around so carelessly.

I don't need to come up with a lot of justification, I just need to be the change I want to see. 

Do you have a good reason NOT to join me?

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