June 26, 2011

There's No Instruction Manual

No nothing makes sense
Nothing seems to fit
I know you'd hit out
If you only knew who to hit...
-Acrobat by U2

I find since getting pregnant and then having a child, my life just hasn't gone quite as planned. Though, come to think of it, I'm no longer sure what my plans were. I think I thought some things would just flow easier and others would be harder and in reality, none of those things were the case!

I feel like I'm at a crossroads in a lot of ways: Do we adopt, or do I try to get pregnant? Do we worry about my child's weight and development, see more specialists or wait and see? Do I disclose all these things in a very public blog on the Internet? Do I start working for myself again?

I don't have a lot of answers right now, but I think the purpose of this post is to tell other moms and dads they're not alone. Your life changes completely when you have a child and not always in ways you'd expect. It's ok not to know what to do or where to go or how to get to the next point. It's probably ok to take it one day and a time and just keep plugging along.

The first thing my dad said when I told him I was pregnant is that, "we all do the best we can at the time and they don't come with an instruction manual."

I guess that's what I have to remind myself.

What little bits of wisdom help you through tough times with kids?

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